OnlyMeets - 2025 FAQ help and advice for Swingers, Swinging, BDSM, Fetish

How to Join

OnlyMeets is strictly restricted to 18's and over and is a membership only platform that you can apply to join by getting a referral from either a current member or one of the many swinger clubs within the UK. From experience, we know other spaces on the internet can be littered with fake profiles, bots, timewasters and odd-balls, but we only ever let humans join the OnlyMeets network.

The easiest way to apply is to ask others within the swinger community if they are members or get your access code from one of our site supporter swinger clubs,.

Age Verification

OnlyMeets is strictly restricted to 18's and over and to ensure we comply with the Online Safety Act all members are required to upload an age verification picture to ensure we protect minors from viewing our content and accessing our services. All age verification pictures are permanently deleted once validated and cannot be recovered.

We fully comply with all UK laws with respect to this. No access to our platform will be provided if we have reason to doubt the age of a community member.

What is OnlyMeets

OnlyMeets is a premium UK adult only platform for those who enjoy alternative lifestyles and want to meet others looking for casual no strings fun, swinging, fetish, BDSM, swingers clubs, sex parties, dogging and many other fetishes scenes. It is a personal project where our all inclusive bot free community welcomes those who are keen to discover, learn, explore, and enjoy more than just the mainstream 9-5 sexual existence and with over 1,000,000 in the UK agreeing why don't you come and take a look - our members only ever bite if asked!

Vanilla is nice but do you really want it every night for the rest of your life? We believe life is for living and can be a lot more fun when other flavours are added into the mix. With our intelligent and extensive search features you can search for your ultimate fantasies both locally and nationally.

We welcome singles and couples and for those interested in the swinger club scene you can find all major UK clubs listed together with all daily swinger events and fetish parties in one easy place, easy!

Single's or Couple's

OnlyMeets welcomes both singles and couples into it's community providing a safe and fun environment for those looking to add excitement to their sex lives. Our platform has singles looking for singles, singles looking for couples, couples looking for singles, couples looking for couples, and any other variation you can think of.

If you are looking to meet genuine people for casual or long term fun then there really is no better place to be.

Do you have an App?

We currently do not have an App, the main reason for this is that the App store charges each and every time a VIP or VIP+ user is added so we would have to pass this cost on to you - which we don't wish to do. Also, many of our members prefer discretion and simply would not want to have a sex app on their phone for various reasons.

If you wish to have fast access to your OnlyMeets account simply add a shortcut via the options page on your browser or add us to your favourites.

Do I have to upload a face picture

New members are required to upload a face picture so we can ensure you are 18 or over - age verification is now a requirement by Law and we support this policy. However, once your photo is verified the picture is deleted and cannot be recovered.

Once verified you do not need to have any face pictures uploaded. We understand and respect that some of our members choose to meet and play with discretion for various reasons. Members can also choose to set their pictures as public or friends only for extra privacy.

What pictures can I upload?

Anything so long as it is yours, you have permission to upload it, and it is legal under UK Law. To keep the site feeling fresh we limit profile photos to 8 but you can chop and change these anytime you want. Members have two photo folders, one public and one that is set to private that can only be shared with friends.

Pictures cannot show any other people apart from the account holder(s) unless you have full permission to upload and display the said picture.

How to improve your profile

To get the very best out of OnlyMeets it is important to spend some time setting your profile up.

Pictures upload clear recent images with or without your face, profiles with no pictures may find it harder to get the attention of other members. Remember, pictures can be set either as public or private and can be rotated at any point to keep your profile feeling fresh.

Complete as much of your profile as you can and always be honest. The swinger, fetish, BDSM and kink scenes have people from all walks of life, tall to small, large to little, beauties and the lovable hairy beasts. There are people from all walks of life and all professions so the more open you are the more fun you will have by matching with those who you share common interests.

Engage in the Red Room Forums, contribute, get noticed, get more profile views, a simple waterfall that will get you more attention and more meets.

How do I photo-verify?

Photo verification is a legal requirement to ensure we protect minors from accessing our platform. To photo verify please write your username and "OnlyMeets" on a piece of paper and upload as normal with a clear face picture. If you have a couples profile then both faces must be visible.

For data protection purposes, the picture is permanently deleted once verified, and must be re-uploaded if you wish to use it on your profile.

What are the search features?

OnlyMeets caters for many different kinks including swinging, BDSM, no strings meets, group fun, swinger clubs and many other fetishes so we offer a huge range of search features including location, age, sexuality, height, sexual interests, body sizes, smokers, and a lot more.

There are literally thousands of search options so you can find exactly who and what you are looking for!

What is Blackbook?

Blackbook is a secure private note station provided by OnlyMeets that cannot be seen by other members. This allows you to store notes, numbers, reminders or anything else you do not wish to keep on a personal device, i.e. for those who want to keep their kink life private. You can find your Blackbook in your profile page and all users are required to acknowledge this feature once they have registered for the site as an extra security bot fighting feature.

Is OnlyMeets private and secure?

OnlyMeets operates with a secure socket layer certificate (SSL) provided by Encryption Everywhere DigiCert and you will see the lock sign in the address bar to show that your data is encrypted, secure and remains safe at all times. OnlyMeets is registered with the Information Commissioners Office and we follow all UK laws to ensure your data is protected at all times. At no time will your data be shared with any other third party without your explicit consent.

I need to report a member

In the unlikely event you need to report a member please contact our support team here who will help with your concerns as soon as possible. OnlyMeets take complaints seriously and will assist wherever possible to ensure our platform remains a safe and fun environment for all everyone.

I have a suggestion?

OnlyMeets is self-built by it's community who provide continued feedback, suggestions and sometimes even coding help to build our platform and we rely on members to tell us what they like, what they don't like and what they want us to develop. Please contact us here with any more features you want or if you want to help.

How do I contact support

Support can be reached though our Contact Us page. We encourage our community to provide as much feedback as possible, positive (and negative) so we can all work together to improve the OnlyMeets platform. Remember this site is your site, built for you so love it, feed it and lets work together to build a human only community we are proud of.

How do I delete my account?

Should you wish for some time away from OnlyMeets your account can either be hidden or deleted. In the event of account deletion all profile data and pictures are permanently erased from our servers and cannot be recovered. We recommend that profiles are hidden if you are looking to take a break rather than leave for good as many who leave return very quickly!